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Delinquent Girls

I really enjoyed reading this article by Andrea Hugmeyer. I had no idea that females had a lot more status offenses than males. Four major status offenses would be truancy, running away, ungovernability, and underage drinking violations. I totally believe that females would have a lot more running aways charges but, not the others. The article acknowledges that females are typically under more strict rules and observation because a lot of people feel like letting a girl have a bit of freedom results in early teen pregnancy. I feel like there is a major difference between letting you daughter run wild and just letting her live. I had a lot of freedom as a child and once I became a teenager it was taken away. I had no clue why I couldn’t do certain things that my friends could do and I held a lot of resentment. I’ll be the first to say that restricting your child doesn’t make them stop doing whatever activity you are trying to halt. It just makes them sneak around and try everything it takes to not get caught.

A lot of females run away from their home life because of abuse or some other traumatic experiences. Instead of there being multiple programs for these women to get help, they are just thrown into the system and left to figure out what to do once they become 18. I’m not saying that there aren’t any programs at all. I just feel like there are not enough of them. Delinquency amongst girls should be dealt with head on and early because it does follow them in future relationships and is obvious by the types of people they surround themselves with.

Too Poor to Parent?

This article was the voice of reason for a lot of foster care situations. Whenever I hear of someone’s children being taken away by Child Protective Services, it’s normally due to “bad parenting”. This article helped me see that every child who is placed in foster care with that label hasn’t been neglected. Most often you hear about the mother who failed to provide a safe environment or the one that neglected their child. I have never questioned whether or not the mother was poor. I instantly think well maybe she did really leave her young child alone or maybe there is a drug issue. Should the mother with little to no money be considered a bad parent?

Maybe she recently lost her job so bills aren’t being paid and electricity is off or there’s no food in the refrigerator. I totally understand that as a mother you will do anything to make sure you child is ok because that’s how my mother was as a single parent. Fortunately, I was never in this situation but, I know people who were. From the outside looking in you would say well there are shelters and programs that the mother can get on to help pay her bills. I am the first person to say that those are always options. Some programs in Detroit have people on waitlist and they have been on them for years at a time. Everyone doesn’t have family and friends that will help them out during bad times. I guess what I’m trying to say is that it should be distinguished as to whether the mothers really neglected their children or if they are poor and unable to care for their children because calling someone a “bad parent” runs a lot deeper than most might think. You are stigmatized as the person who should never be able to care for children when your only fault is the fact that you have fallen on bad times.

Power Plays

I read the article in the book that discuss ways the Male Corporate Elite keeps women out of this environment. The article talks about how most CEOs are large companies are white males and that there is rarely any minority in these groups. A lot of the time when there is minority, they are apart of the group with less power and haven’t ranked very high in the offices. I realize that power is something that a lot of people wish to have but, even with you have power it can’t always be used to your advantage. In my personal opinion I don’t believe that women are taken seriously 100% in these larger jobs because of fact that we are often seen as sexualized beings. A woman has to work a lot harder than a man to get to the top of their company and still receives less pay. For a woman when you have reached a certain level of power you want to act like your co-workers to keep the position you have been given.

I feel like it’s believed that having only a select few women being a part of the top leaders in the a company is the correct way to run a business only because of law. Laws have been set in place about discrimination in the workplace based on race or gender but, women are still not moving up in the ranks. I deeply feel like if there were no laws set in place to ban discrimination, a lot of places would probably have no women at all.

Hold That Nose

The goal to be nothing short of perfect is something I don’t wish to achieve. The idea of appearance being the main thing someone bases your entire being on as a person is disturbing. In the article “Hold That Nose” it discusses how a Jewish woman grew up in New York feeling like there was a duty she faced because of the size of her nose. Author Lisa Miya tells how her mother has been pressuring her to get surgery on her nose because she feels it will lead to a better life. The mother even offers to pay for it multiple times but, she wasn’t sold. As I read the story I noticed that Lisa’s mother was actually forced to have rhinoplasty at the age of 16. She says that she’s been happy ever since but, will not force the same treatment on Lisa. The author’s father says that without the surgery Lisa and her sister would not exist because he would have never spoke to their mother. I found this the most ironic statement in the article because Lisa said that her father believes that you shouldn’t buy new pants until your old ones are completely falling apart and says a haircut should be $10 and take 10 minutes. This in turn means that the man doesn’t care about appearance enough to spend money on it unless you have a big nose. Very contradicting don’t you think?

Lisa realizes that she is Jewish but, exclaims that she rarely partakes in any Jewish celebrations or activities besides a few friends Bat Mitzvahs. Lisa has been to temple twice and doesn’t even know Hebrew. She says that this has made her question whether or not she was any less of a Jew. A lot of the Jewish women around her were getting surgery but, Lisa had no intentions on “letting someone break her nose, scrape part of it out, and reposition it into a small shape”. She says that she is comfortable with the way her nose is shaped. I find the idea of parents forcing their children into a surgery that is not needed for the survival absurd. I don’t even think that young teens should be thinking about surgeries at this age. To say that you are any less of a person just because you have a larger nose is ridiculous.

I realized how common rhinoplasty was for the Jewish women when Lisa said that she went to a Planned Parenthood fund-raiser with her mom and from wall to wall she saw women with blond hair and small noses. Naturally assuming that they were Caucasian, Lisa asked “why aren’t there any Jewish women”. Her mother laughed and said that every woman in the event was Jewish. I started to wonder if it were possible that these women wanted to be perceived as white. Obviously the answer was yes. I’ve never heard of it being a cultural acceptance within the Jewish community to get rid of your noses let alone any part of your body just because it “looks good”. It bothers me that everyone wants to look like the next person and not the person that they were created to be. As a woman, I’d have to say that I don’t share some of the same insecurities as other women because I am totally accepting of the person I am now and will become in the future.

“Sexting”

Amanda Lenhart’s article “Sexting” was a very interesting read. She covers how the age for teens that own cell phones has increased about 40% from 2004-2012. Not only do more teens have cell phones but, they are using them for more than just phone calls. Texting is a large part of the interaction amongst people with cell phones and I must admit this is probably my main form of communication because I find it quick and easy. Now, they are taking texting a step further. Law enforcement has been perplexed with cases of teens and young adults sexting: they are sending provactive images or videos via text, email, or even through social media to other individuals.

I read that the Univerisity has actually conducted studies with middle and high school students to find out how common this form of texting really is. I never imagined that sexting would be done among middle school children simply because I was use to being outside and playing. I never wanted to be cooped up in the house stuck on a phone. I had to remember that this is the day and age for technology. The studies showed how normal sending sexual pictures has become with students saying — yeah, it happens a lot, my friends do it a lot, it’s no big deal— it’s like this action is accepted in many areas just like playing a video game.

A few of the students aren’t agreeing that this behavior is a commonality and actually say they could never see themselves participating in this manner. They say that it’s too risky and have been witnesses to couples being upset with one another so the individuals will send the sexual pictures to their friends as a form of blackmail. I’ve noticed that children have far more ways to express themselves than I did when I was younger so with that, more things should be monitored. As an adult whatever you decide to do with your phone I feel is your own business but, the young teens who act in this way should be more exposed to the harms of “sexting” because it’s all fun and games until someone gets seriously hurt. Maybe the parents who are paying for their child’s phones can turn off certain functions. Of course it won’t stop this fad 100% but it may direct children to do something more productive. I don’t have any children of my own so with these new stories I continue to read about, I plan to be very cautious with the electronics I buy my children in the future.

Any other opinions???

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