I regret not posting this on the first week of class.
We had discussions and watched movies early on about body image.
I personally have always felt particularly stumped when it comes to dealing with this issue. What I mean is that when others discriminate against over-weight people I do not know how to tell them they are wrong for fear of them turning on me. That is not to say that I feel prejudiced against on a daily basis, but I have sometimes felt hate from others who obviously think I should be thinner.
Simply writing about this I want to be careful to not offend and I’m struggling to find words.
There is nothing wrong with being fat, nor does it make someone ugly. I have no problem with fat people. I feel bad calling them fat in this post but I feel that it is the only way to express what I am trying to say. There are other words used sometimes, like “thick,” “chunky,” or my favorite “full figured.” But honestly they all mean the same things.
I guess my main problem is that I can see the skinny-side opinion as having some validity – health. This is what creates the most turmoil for me as I attempt to make my ideas coherent. Because in the end, being overweight is hard on the body.I have a cardiologist who I see every three years to check on my murmur caused by a torn valve. My cardiologist is very fat. When I was little he used to tell me I was slightly above the weight he would prefer to see me at, and he would cite that my heart has to work harder when I weigh more than my body is designed for.
But he was fat.
So I never respected him.
My boyfriend worries about my health. I think he is worried about my weight and it makes me feel quite shitty for having chosen such a man. But he always reassures me that his concern is rooted in my diet; which is valid. I never eat fresh fruits or veggies – and he does, a lot. So he wants me to be as healthy as him. But I think even if I ate veggies and worked out regularly, I would still be a little “thick.” That doesn’t bother me, and it better not bother him.
I know skinny people who eat crap, and I know fat people who eat healthy.
Either way, I don’t think those fat people should be looked down on for their size.
Recently I was worried that I should slim down so I would feel more confident in job interviews. Then I realized how ridiculous that seems. And then I remembered the harsh reality that people associate body shape with work ethic.
Point is, people suck.