My boyfriend and I decided to meet up with a friend in Ann Arbor and decided to just hang out and walk around. It was getting dark and my boyfriend was just joking around and said that we should get going because it was getting dark out and he didn’t have his rape whistle. Obviously I knew he was joking around but our friend got very upset and started talking about how its people like him that help create this rape culture. After she mentioned that, it dawned on me that we learned about this in class. I guess since I knew he wasn’t being serious I wasn’t really paying attention to the meaning of what was said. Has it gotten to the point that rape isn’t taken seriously and we can just joke about it and I laughed? After that I felt really bad that I was part of something that turned rape into a joke.
I know that people don’t literally think that rape is a joke but we take things and make jokes out of it for laughs without really thinking about how what we say affects people. It’s terrible that I was part of this and it makes me wonder what other issues I’ve just laughed about. Usually when I make jokes about bad things that I have been through, it’s to try and forget about how bad it was, but that doesn’t make it right. I know that my boyfriend and I are not bad people we have just fallen into an issue that is plaguing our society. After that happened I spoke to my boyfriend because he didn’t even know what our friend was talking about and why she got so upset. The entire ride home was spent discussing why she was upset and why what he said was a problem. I can’t say that I will never laugh at jokes or say something that I shouldn’t say, but I can say that I will be thinking before I speak. Even though we learned about this topic in class it didn’t really sink in until it was brought to my attention in this way.