I once read some women look for authoritative father type figures in their partners. This is due to the lack of parental guidance and/or love when they were young. This may be true, but I don’t think anyone is looking for an abusive, violent person to substitute for what they lacked as a father figure. Women turn over their personal power to this person and get trapped because they are busy focusing on the immediate danger of violence to themselves or maybe their children. They may find that the energy it takes planning a strategy of escape to be overwhelming.
Men and women who become aggressive when they can’t get their way or for no apparent reason have outburst of uncontrolled anger never developed social skills that allowed them to be reasonable, get along with others or compromise for a win-win solution. Studies have shown that some people have a chemical and mental imbalance and should be on medication, in the hospital or in prison.
I also read, Everything I Needed to Know in Life I Learned in Kindergarten. Isn’t it funny how a solid foundation in the basic social skills that help us control our temper and behavior; keep our hands to ourselves, wait our turn, and respecting others can take us through our childhood, our teen years, our adult years and all the way to our 70s and 80s without harming others!!!!!!