I have been moved twice now in this class. The first being after I read Shame-O-Phobia by David Wexler and the second time today after class (3/18/2013). This is a soap box post.
At the end of class I overheard a comment (it is paraphrased): “So what, when I pick a girl up from a bar I am supposed to take the girl to a police station and sign a consent form to have sex with her?” This kind of talk outrages me. Yes, if you are asking this question, then yes, do that. First, if you are driving home from a bar where you picked a girl up, a couple topics come to mind. She is drunk and you are not, because you are driving. If you take her home and have sex with her; THAT IS RAPE. It does not matter if she consents to it. It does not matter. Listen, IT DOES NOT MATTER. As federal law states below, when under the influence of a substance a person is “incapable of consenting.” This IS rape. Do not rape. Second, are you drunk driving a random girl to your house from the bar? Now, two lives are in danger because you are looking for an easy hookup. This individual was incapable of seeing the implications of trying to have sex with a drunk female. Worse, the female in the group exiting class was not disagreeing with him. To me, she seemed content with the comments he was making. It does not matter if it is male or female. If it is reported, there will be an investigation and chances are, the accused will be sitting in court.
10 USC 920 – Article 120 Rape and sexual assault generally, section b.3.A states that ” [any person who] commits a sexual act upon another person when the other person is incapable of consenting to the sexual act due to— impairment by any drug, intoxicant, or other similar substance, and that condition is known or reasonably should be known by the person.”
The following statements are of my own words and have no scientific proof (that I know of). They are my thoughts on male rape. A drunk male can be and is raped. Society promotes the sexual male. Males promote and make competition out of sex with those in a males group. I believe almost every male has been raped and does not realize he has been because of the pressure put on him to have sex. Have you ever had that hookup you feel bad about? The hookup that is considered your “fat chick” hookup you have to have at least once to be considered a real man? Guess what, you have probably been raped. You don’t realize it, but the “ugly” girl you didn’t notice at the party noticed you. Just like you notice all the “hot” girls and are attempting to hook up with them, she is scoping for the drunkest males. She watches as you get rejected then swoops in with a drink. You wake up the next morning running for the hills and your buddies are poking fun at you for getting with the “ugly” one.
You have been raped, but the prestige of being a man who has had sex is to much. Even those with no “game” will be jealous that you at least got with someone. You don’t realize it, but those feelings of guilt and shame are what some girls are feeling when they hook up with you after drinking. Alcohol and sex, generally, do not mix. In most cases, someone is being raped. Our peers, and pressures of being a male or female, keep us from reporting the rape. Pressures include, but are not limited to: The feelings of guilt of getting someone else in trouble, “I deserved it” statements, peers brushing it off as just a random hookup, nobody caring about how you feel, the list can go on. In the end, do not rape.
Congress law taken from the website: http://www.law.cornell.edu/uscode/text/10/920