This video actually addresses one of the questions that were raised in class last Thursday when we talked about gender and sex.
This guy in the video gets picked on because his room is a little bit girly. Just because it is so neat and his blanket has a flowery pattern! And then of course they have to judge his beauty videos that he make, which are only for fun.
He talks about how society tries to demean female as a gender,and always put her at a lower status then man. Like the famous saying “ you need balls to do that”, because of course men are the tough ones and having balls makes you more powerful despite that they are the weakest part of men. For me it was interesting because of all the comments below this video, that are insulting. One of the commenters asked him to “grow a pair”. On the other hand, many people actually advocated his opinions and confirmed that this is the reality we live in. The guy ends his video by saying “Why don’t we stop feeding into archaic ways of thinking, and open our minds.”
This reflects some of what is written in chapter three in our book, “Learning Gender”. Norms are associated with femininity and masculinity. Individuals that follow these norms are rewarded by social institutions, and if they are broken, they are sanctioned for them. Thus kids learn the roles that are expected from them not the ones they want to.
In “Shame-O-Phobia”, David Wexler reflects these obligated social norms by his personal experience He could not bare the thought of carrying his wife’s purse for 15 seconds, and his main reason to state was that he could envision the smirks of people around him, terrified by society’s judgement of his masculinity. He didn’t want to appear as feminine- “God forbid!” Men are supposed to be rigid, and not show any emotions, because women are emotional, never men! Wexler in his article assures that opening up doesn’t make a man vulnerable, rather it releases him from pain he doesn’t have to carry.
In brief, all these issues we have in society that emphasizes gender roles are driving people to worse in some cases. It can prevent women from being the lead formula one drivers, and guys from being ballet dancers. So what if a guy was sensitive. I am not saying that we are not different, we are built different after all, but if some one wants to deviate from the path that society enforced, then why not? It is their life.