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No Fat Chicks

Last week driving to school I was behind a car that had a bumper sticker saying “No Fat Chicks” with the universal symbol  for not so much – a circle and a slash.  Um…Ok.  So that means no fat chicks…what?

Willful stupidity and meanness annoy me.

Ironically our readings this week included topics on the subject, including  Love Your Fat Self by Courtney E. Martin and Beating Anorexia and Gaining Feminism by Marni Grossman.  My annoyance with that bumper sticker resurfaced after those two essays.  Why must women be thin – sometimes at the expense of health and even risking death – to be considered attractive and acceptable?

In search for enlightenment (smile) I Googled “No Fat Chicks’.  I got some interesting links and images – including many more stickers and signs I could buy –  apparently bumper-sticker guy is not alone.

This is one image that particularly illustrates the unfairness of how men and women are viewed:

nofatchicksHow come the fat guy can say that?

There were also several links from dating or social web sites with men posting forum questions about how to ‘politely’ (and by that I mean not) avoid “fat chicks”.   Lastly there were a couple of links to personal pages of BBW (big beautiful women) who are embracing who they are, however, even on their sites men posted hate messages about lack of self-control and poor hygiene or health problems.

I then Googled “No Fat Guys” .   I think I may have found a money-making opportunity.  Bumper stickers.  There is an untapped market.    That’s right, unlike the 50+ shopping pages of “No Fat Chicks” stuff there was no equivalent links for “No Fat Guys” stuff on Google.  Most of the links were about diet advice for men.  Also, there were some very disturbing images of real fat men who really ought not to be naked in public.

And then there was one rather politically correct T-Shirt available:

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Over 90 years of feminism and that is the best we’ve got??

Clearly there is a double-standard going on with regards to weight on men versus weight on women, but even more disturbing to me that like many feminist issues, women are their own worst enemy.  Martin points this out  when she mentions effortless falling into “a chronic gossip, and judging other women, big and small” (268).

We drank the Kool-Aid.

We follow the diets, buy the creams, starve ourselves, hate ourselves, and more often than not project our insincerities and fears on the women around us while we wait for the next miracle bra or shaper to come along.  Stress is a know factor in not only gaining weight, but being able to lose it, and yet all we do is stress about the subject.

And here is another ridiculous double-standard – women are “supposed” to have big boobs and a booty – but not an ounce of fat anywhere else.  For those who want to make weight a health issue, how is plastic surgery,  eating disorders and unrealistic standards healthy for girls and women?

If we women bash ourselves and each other, then what right do we have to be indignant about men bashing us?

As the mother of two teenage girls I cringe to see how much emphasis is put on body image by the media and peers and how little progress has been made to care about the girl inside.

We can do better than this.   It is not just enough for BBW to love themselves – we women need to accept and respect each other and lead by example.


2 Comments

  1. alemara123 says:

    Women today need more knowledge to know themselves better. These days, we see women that care about their appearance, weight, and hairstyles more than they care about their moral issues or their rights. I think we need a new feminism movement that focuses on teaching women about knowing their real role in society. I agree with you that “we women need to accept and respect each other.” This reminds me of what happened in my daughter’s school about two weeks ago where two teachers were fighting and one ended up getting fired. Women, we need to understand each other and forgive one another. We have a long way to fight in getting our rights back.

  2. Karihan Hamida says:

    ^^ In agreement with the last comment as well as the viewpoint of the author of this article, We women need to respect one another if we expect the opposite sex to respect us. We see these issues all around us, movies like “mean girls” and everyday life in young girls in highschool and beyond. Why is it ok for girls to bash eachother, show hatred towards one another, and sometimes act worse than men when commenting on another girls appearence. If more women stood up for the respect and dignity of other women than, just maybe, men would do the same.

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